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How to Be a Strong Independent Woman

By February 12, 2022 No Comments

In the 21st century, the word “strong” is often perceived as being accepting of pain, suffering, dilemma etc., and while the word might be a tad bit overused it might be time for women to collectively redefine what it means to be strong and independent, because at the end of the day being a woman is a complex term, women are soft, multidimensional, talented, powerful, elegant and beautiful beings. To be strong independent implies that you find joy from within, you are your own source and you are well aware of the work you have to do on yourself to get to where you want to be.

It is important to know that no amount of courses or lessons can convince you unless you believe in yourself that you are who you say you are. An important step to take when claiming who you are is to know and recognize your worth, don’t let anyone define who you are, there is great danger in allowing people to misname you. After all, in the words of Upile Chisala “there is danger in letting people misname you. If you are a fire, do not answer when they call you spark.

On your journey to being a strong independent woman, you have to be able to put yourself first. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t care for others, rather it implies that you should have your best interest at heart. Learn to understand your needs, be able to confront yourself emotionally, study yourself, express yourself and how you feel. If you think you deserve something or better, then go for it, do not settle for anything less.
It is important to note that there is no joy in comparison. Avoid comparing yourself or your achievements to that of others.

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Sometimes, getting jealous is natural but it is important and up to you to control it, take charge of your thoughts, life and actions. For times when you might seem stuck it is advisable to get a mentor or a role model to learn from and not envy.
You should also learn to set boundaries, be selfish when it comes to space and the people you let in it don’t let people walk over or take advantage of you. Put yourself first and let people know where you are concerning jokes or criticisms especially when unsolicited. Do not alter your boundaries for anyone.

Standing up for yourself is another important factor to being a strong independent woman. Be assertive or learn how to be assertive, it helps you when you go out into the world because there are situations that will test you so you have to be able to show up, stand up and speak for yourself. Learn how to say no, always put your needs first. Don’t go out of your way to please people.

Invest in yourself and learn new things. The number one rule to independence is having your own money, no one can dictate to you how to go about your lfe. Upskilling enables you to have skills that are always in demand. Learn how to save and invest your coins to secure long-term wealth. Always have the “I can” spirit, believe you are capable of whatever you set your mind to.
As a strong independent woman, it’s important to identify your strengths and weaknesses. It helps during self-reflection and can make a lot of difference in your life.

Finally, being a strong, independent woman all depends on you. You have to carry yourself as such and see yourself as one. The way you perceive yourself is how people address you.

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